Friday, January 18, 2008

Oral sex techniques

The vagina is a sort of cave of wonders for most men. This organ that is so different from the penis in its physical shape has always been one of the most powerful turn-ons for men and also a constant source of attraction. Men simply can’t help being curious about it and also about the many techniques they can use on it to give pleasure. Fingers, toys, tongue, lips and penis, nearly all the small parts of our bodies that we can move at all have been used to please women.

And here are a few tips for all you people willing to make your lovers happy, but who are unsure of how to go about it. It doesn’t really matter how you feel about going down on a woman; just keep in mind that she will love it if you really know how to do it and that she will probably be happy to reciprocate. What could be better than a hot lady going down on you and not just out of a sense of obligation, but because she actually wants to do it? Those who are already proficient at oral sex and only want to brush up their skills should read on. This information can’t hurt you.

The best oral sex technique is based on a slow approach that is meant to increase the woman’s arousal without spoiling the mood by being too rough. Start by spreading the labia with two fingers and licking her from the vaginal opening up to the clitoris. Keep at it for a while, changing the movement pattern from time to time, and then have a go at the vagina. Most of the nerve endings that convey the sensation of pleasure are located within the first few inches of the vagina. So stick your tongue in. It won’t go very far inside, but you can move it in circles just inside the opening.

Once the woman is hot enough that licking her vagina is not enough anymore, you can move on to the most sensitive target. Pull back her labia and bring the clitoris into the light. Now you can greet the clitoris with a quick suck. Just take it in your mouth, slide your lips up and down it and then let go. After the initial greeting, you can get to some serious business by taking the clitoris between your lips and flicking your tongue over it. The speed of the tongue depends on how sensitive the clitoris in question is.

Oral sex goes hand in hand with G-spot or anal stimulation. It’s perfectly natural that while your tongue is playing with the clitoris or tracing the labia, your fingers should wonder around. So stick a finger or two inside her vagina (the palm of your hand must face up), a couple of inches from the opening. Then move your fingers as if you’re making the “come hither” sign on the front wall of the vagina. If you’re on target, you should feel a little bump in the wall and your lady should let out a cry of delight.

Alternatively, you can stick a finger inside her anus and introduce her to the exotic pleasure from beyond the Great Wall of the Vagina. Use lubrication on your finger and on her anus. Don’t think you’re man enough to go in dry, because you’ll only get a kick in the face. If you do it right, there’ll be heaven in store for you and more.

One of the most common licking techniques for the long haul is the alphabet technique. The basic idea is to move your tongue over her clitoris in the shape of all the letters in the alphabet. This suggestion accomplishes two goals at the same time because it allows the man to use some variation in the movement pattern, but not enough to spoil the mood, and to prevent the unskilled lover from using the same movements again and again until the lady gets bored.

Rocking Love Machine

Let's say you're a great talker. Sexy and passionate. Laid back. Knows how to have fun. Great kisser. Unpredictable and you're a 'rare to find'. Your love is one of a kind, silly, fun and sweet. You have your own unique sexiness and you're the most caring person every single girl wants to meet. And last but not the least, you're amazing in bed.

Did I say ROCKING IN BED???

Frankly, if you're doubting yourself then you have a big problem. Whether you’re actually bad in bed or just low on confidence, I can’t say. This is up to you to find out, while I’m just doing some explaining for your convenience. The root of the problem lies in the very simple fact that it takes a lot of experience to know if a woman has an orgasm or if she’s faking it. And even experienced men can’t always tell if the woman’s faking it or not. Bottom line: you can never be sure that your performance is top quality.

And that’s even before we take into account slip ups and “that time” when you were too tired or too stressed or you had too much to drink and, well, you know what happened. Unfortunately, these things can erode a man’s peace of mind and confidence and make him suspicious of his lady’s behavior, even if he shouldn’t be. Some times are good and some times are bad and there’s little you can do about it. Loosing confidence in yourself and throwing good self-esteem out the window just because of a slip up is not the way to deal with this.

Okay then, put all the blame to stress. Stress is one of the great “sex killers” nowadays because no man can truly enjoy himself if he keeps thinking about deadlines, bosses, nasty co-workers or credit card debt. We do live in a stressful world and the modern fashion that surrounds a man with dozens of machines in order to allow him to work harder and harder everyday is doing it’s best to ruin sex around the world. I’m sure that many men who have to resort to Viagra would do better to try and relax a little and take things easier.

Aside from its direct impact on performance, stress has some side effects that are just as bad. Some men take to drinking because of it. It always starts small, since going out with the guys is fun and, hey, we’re just having a few beers. Before you know it the number of beers grows and the “evenings out” turn into “nights out”. Small wonder that a stressed man with a significant quantity of alcohol in his body is not performing in bed as usual. Men need to recognize the early signs of stress in their lives and take control of the situation.

Remember that once you’ve started asking questions about your performance you could easily slide into a pattern where low self esteem triggers a failure, which, in turn, sends self esteem even lower and so on. Try to be a bit more positive about things. You were probably tired or stressed. Or you may need to learn some new positions and break the bedroom routine a bit. Surprise her with a new trick or a fantasy and be the world's greatest rocking love machine.