Among all sexual practices that are allowed in polite conversation, anal sex is by far the least known and understood. There is still a thick layer of myths surrounding anal sex that obscure the simple facts and promote ideas and attitudes which should not belong in this century. Surveys show that one in four women has tried anal sex at least once and still many women refuse to even consider the idea of getting even more pleasure out of their bodies. Currently anal sex is struggling with the “red-headed step child” position inherited from oral sex, while moving slowly, but surely, toward mainstream recognition.
The most common myth about the anus is that it’s very dirty. We are all taught since our early years that the anus is a threat to our health and that any contact with it must be followed by a thorough washing. No wonder that many people reject anal sex without bothering to understand it. They are convinced that the anus is something irrevocably dirty that could never be involved in sex. However, a simple look around is enough to convince anybody that we’re living in an age where hygiene is better than ever. Anybody who follows the normal hygiene rules ought to have a clean anus. And one can always resort to an enema for extra cleaning.
Anal sex causes hemorrhoids! Have you ever heard this? Many women believe that anal sex can cause hemorrhoids or worse: fissures and tears in the anus. This goes hand in hand with the myth that anal sex can cause incontinence. While it’s true that nobody wants to spend the rest of his or her life wearing adult dippers, it must be said that anal sex cannot cause incontinence. It doesn’t matter to your body whether things are going in or out of the anus. Anal incontinence is caused either by severe damage to the muscles and nerves or by the brain’s failure to control the body. None of this happens because of anal sex.
Another huge objection to anal sex stems from the idea that it is a perverted act, an unnatural concept that has no place in the lives of decent people. Frankly, anal sex has been around for centuries and no, it wasn’t just something the Greeks did. This century does not have a monopoly on imagination and experimenting with one’s body and people from other cultures and other times had discovered long ago that anal sex is fine. The bottom line is that it’s your body and your decision. If you think anal sex is unnatural, then don’t do it.
Anal sex is painful! Well, the anus is tight, which means that anal sex is bound to hurt a lot each and every time, right? Wrong. First, everyone who wants to try anal sex should educate him or herself about all its aspects in order to avoid pain. Lubrication and condoms should take care of the skin-on-skin friction, while patience will allow the anus to relax enough to receive a penis. Even a big one. More often than not, if anal sex hurts, you are doing something wrong. Probably not using enough lubrication or pushing too fast.
And finally, the last common objection is the idea that anal sex is something only homosexuals do. This is simply ridiculous. Across the centuries men and women have enjoyed anal sex without the slightest hint of homosexuality. Not to mention that many homosexuals simply refuse to have anal sex because they don’t like it. There is no link between anal stimulation and homosexuality. Ultimately, it all comes down to choices. If you don’t want to engage in anal sex, then don’t. Just be sure you’re making an informed decision instead of resorting to a knee-jerk reaction to something you don’t understand.
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
Thursday, April 3, 2008
Finding the hidden erogenous zones
Curiosity, information, learning and experience are the best tools for perfecting your skills as a lover who can drive ladies wild. Still, these tools can only take you so far if you don’t try to acquire more knowledge by exploration and observation. It’s pretty strange to think about it, especially with all the porn floating around the Internet, but a lot of men have never taken a good look at a woman’s vagina. Never! All they’ve ever seen was a flash of pink among the pubic hairs. Small wonder that some men are clueless when it comes to finding a woman’s clitoris and know next to nothing about the erogenous zones.
To be fair, some men are indeed exceedingly shy. They feel lucky enough when they’re able to convince a lady to go to bed with them and are not in the mood for exploration and experimentation. Moreover, others think (and with good reason, too, as far as I know) that women might not share their curiosity, or may even take an attempt to expand one’s experience as proof of weirdness or inexperience (“Haven’t you seen a pussy before?” – can you answer “No” to such a question?). It takes a smooth talker to get out of this kind of situation and shy men are not known for being smooth talkers.
Then there’s the “I’m not going down there! It’s disgusting!” crowd. Guys, if you expect oral sex from your ladies, it’s only fair to bite the bullet and reciprocate. Besides, you shouldn’t judge the experience before you actually try it. Many men thought they were only going to do it out of fairness and were very surprised to find that it wasn’t half as bad as it had seemed. If your lady is careful about her hygiene and if you can keep an open mind about it, close-up exploration of your lady’s private parts may prove to be very good fun indeed.
Still other men are simply not interested in getting a good look. That’s their opinion and we should respect it even if many of us can’t agree with it. Others are really curious, but they think that getting on all fours and doing this is beneath them. It’s amazing that men would rather rely on rumors, hearsay and myths or simply expect information to fall into their laps. The “If I have to do all the work, then it’s not worth it” approach is not exactly the best way for those who want to sharpen their bedroom skills.
Whether lying in bed in order to share an intimate moment of peace or to get ready for a hot session of sex, bring the conversation around to masturbation. If the lady is doing it and not shy to talk about her solitary practices, then ask her to show you what she’s doing. Chances are she’s focusing on the clitoris and so you’ll get a good look not only at the pleasure center itself, but also at the proper stimulation technique. But remember to be gentle about this topic. If the lady is not inclined to share the details with you or is not into masturbation, change the topic.
Your main targets in that area are the clitoris and the perineum. These are the hidden erogenous zones that cannot be easily accessed, but which are very important to a student of the erotic arts. The clitoris is a highly sensitive area, which is responsible for most female orgasms because, unlike the penis, the clitoris has no other function except to give pleasure. Vaginal orgasms are significantly less common than clitoral orgasms and, for many women, not nearly as good. One trick that you may be able to use to your advantage, if you can pull it off, is to have the woman give you a guided tour of her private parts. You’d be amazed at what people are willing to discuss with enough coaxing.
If you have to find your own way around, then here’s the layout. The clitoris is located directly above the junction of the two inner lips (labia minora). If you use your fingers to gently separate the lips (you will want to keep your fingernails cut very short), the little rosebud or its hood should become apparent. The clitoris is either fully or partially covered by a hood; this aspect different from one woman to another. You can use your fingers or lips on the clitoris, but be very gentle. If the woman says the sensation is too intense to bear, pull back and don’t argue about it.
The perineum is an area you are most likely to have to learn about on your own. It is located between the lower junction of the labia minora and the anus. This area is also highly sensitive and, along with the anus, can be stimulated in order to obtain a pleasure response. And the response is not limited to women; men also enjoy a finger pressing on their perineum, especially during ejaculation. It is known to enhance pleasure so feel free to experiment with this part of your body.
To be fair, some men are indeed exceedingly shy. They feel lucky enough when they’re able to convince a lady to go to bed with them and are not in the mood for exploration and experimentation. Moreover, others think (and with good reason, too, as far as I know) that women might not share their curiosity, or may even take an attempt to expand one’s experience as proof of weirdness or inexperience (“Haven’t you seen a pussy before?” – can you answer “No” to such a question?). It takes a smooth talker to get out of this kind of situation and shy men are not known for being smooth talkers.
Then there’s the “I’m not going down there! It’s disgusting!” crowd. Guys, if you expect oral sex from your ladies, it’s only fair to bite the bullet and reciprocate. Besides, you shouldn’t judge the experience before you actually try it. Many men thought they were only going to do it out of fairness and were very surprised to find that it wasn’t half as bad as it had seemed. If your lady is careful about her hygiene and if you can keep an open mind about it, close-up exploration of your lady’s private parts may prove to be very good fun indeed.
Still other men are simply not interested in getting a good look. That’s their opinion and we should respect it even if many of us can’t agree with it. Others are really curious, but they think that getting on all fours and doing this is beneath them. It’s amazing that men would rather rely on rumors, hearsay and myths or simply expect information to fall into their laps. The “If I have to do all the work, then it’s not worth it” approach is not exactly the best way for those who want to sharpen their bedroom skills.
Whether lying in bed in order to share an intimate moment of peace or to get ready for a hot session of sex, bring the conversation around to masturbation. If the lady is doing it and not shy to talk about her solitary practices, then ask her to show you what she’s doing. Chances are she’s focusing on the clitoris and so you’ll get a good look not only at the pleasure center itself, but also at the proper stimulation technique. But remember to be gentle about this topic. If the lady is not inclined to share the details with you or is not into masturbation, change the topic.
Your main targets in that area are the clitoris and the perineum. These are the hidden erogenous zones that cannot be easily accessed, but which are very important to a student of the erotic arts. The clitoris is a highly sensitive area, which is responsible for most female orgasms because, unlike the penis, the clitoris has no other function except to give pleasure. Vaginal orgasms are significantly less common than clitoral orgasms and, for many women, not nearly as good. One trick that you may be able to use to your advantage, if you can pull it off, is to have the woman give you a guided tour of her private parts. You’d be amazed at what people are willing to discuss with enough coaxing.
If you have to find your own way around, then here’s the layout. The clitoris is located directly above the junction of the two inner lips (labia minora). If you use your fingers to gently separate the lips (you will want to keep your fingernails cut very short), the little rosebud or its hood should become apparent. The clitoris is either fully or partially covered by a hood; this aspect different from one woman to another. You can use your fingers or lips on the clitoris, but be very gentle. If the woman says the sensation is too intense to bear, pull back and don’t argue about it.
The perineum is an area you are most likely to have to learn about on your own. It is located between the lower junction of the labia minora and the anus. This area is also highly sensitive and, along with the anus, can be stimulated in order to obtain a pleasure response. And the response is not limited to women; men also enjoy a finger pressing on their perineum, especially during ejaculation. It is known to enhance pleasure so feel free to experiment with this part of your body.
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
The History of Penis Enlargement
Many people believe that the phenomenon of male enhancement is a result of changing human sexuality. They believe that men nowadays have suddenly developed a sort of male vanity, probably as a result of heightened sexual activity in present society. However, the above proposition would be entirely false. It can be said that modern society has suddenly acquired a more intense state of sexual activity, the male enhancement is by no means, a novel idea.
As far back as the Ancient Greek period, a special treatment is awarded the male genitalia.
Though the ancient Greeks actually preferred small genitals, they nonetheless, exerted extra effort in ensuring that their genitals remained healthy. Their refined tastes led them to view small penises as aesthetically superior over large ones. During this period, young men exercised naked and they protected their genitals by stretching the prepuce over the glans and fastening it, using a ribbon to the penile base.
Around two thousand years ago, the practice of weight hanging began to gain popularity in several tribes in Africa. It has also been proposed that this practice goes as far back as ancient Egypt, wherein the pharaohs themselves used it to increase their sexual enjoyment. Weight hanging simply means hanging devices at the penis' end in order stretch the tissues that comprise the penis shaft. While this technique has been proven effective in lengthening the penis, it has also resulted in diminished penile girth. Moreover, it has also been shown to result in inadequate blood circulation within the penis cells, depriving them of their much needed supply of oxygen and other nutrients necessary for their survival.
Safer and less drastic methods for male genital enhancement were also developed in ancient times. One is the application or ingestion of herbal aphrodisiacs and the other is the employment of penile exercises. The vast selection of treatments offered by Chinese herbal medicine included ginseng and yohimbe, which are used until the present time to improve penile dimensions and increase the sexual appetite. Pills, patches and topical oils developed at present contain one or a mixture of these herbs to achieve natural and painless penile enhancement. Aside from these sexual effects, these herbal treatments are also known to either prevent or treat conditions like tuberculosis, kidney disorders, heart disorders and diabetes.
The ancient Arabic civilizations also placed a great importance to penile dimensions. Young Arab boys were given lessons in the penile exercise called Jelq, when they are finally coming of age. The Jelq involves massaging the semi-erect penis in a rhythmic and regular manner, enhancing blood pressure within the shaft. The effect of this technique appears in approximately a month, provided that it is done regularly and correctly.
Lastly, in the early 20th century, the penis enlargement pump was invented by an Austrian called Otto Ledever. This marks the beginning of modern equipment use in this area of cosmetic treatment. The penis pump basically creates a vacuum and causes the cells to swell with blood. With prolonged use, this technique was shown to have more lasting results.
These techniques are still present today in various forms. It is important to know the history of penile enlargement in order to have a better perspective of each technique's background and effectivity. With this in mind, men can ascertain for themselves, which technique will be best suited for their purpose.
As far back as the Ancient Greek period, a special treatment is awarded the male genitalia.
Though the ancient Greeks actually preferred small genitals, they nonetheless, exerted extra effort in ensuring that their genitals remained healthy. Their refined tastes led them to view small penises as aesthetically superior over large ones. During this period, young men exercised naked and they protected their genitals by stretching the prepuce over the glans and fastening it, using a ribbon to the penile base.
Around two thousand years ago, the practice of weight hanging began to gain popularity in several tribes in Africa. It has also been proposed that this practice goes as far back as ancient Egypt, wherein the pharaohs themselves used it to increase their sexual enjoyment. Weight hanging simply means hanging devices at the penis' end in order stretch the tissues that comprise the penis shaft. While this technique has been proven effective in lengthening the penis, it has also resulted in diminished penile girth. Moreover, it has also been shown to result in inadequate blood circulation within the penis cells, depriving them of their much needed supply of oxygen and other nutrients necessary for their survival.
Safer and less drastic methods for male genital enhancement were also developed in ancient times. One is the application or ingestion of herbal aphrodisiacs and the other is the employment of penile exercises. The vast selection of treatments offered by Chinese herbal medicine included ginseng and yohimbe, which are used until the present time to improve penile dimensions and increase the sexual appetite. Pills, patches and topical oils developed at present contain one or a mixture of these herbs to achieve natural and painless penile enhancement. Aside from these sexual effects, these herbal treatments are also known to either prevent or treat conditions like tuberculosis, kidney disorders, heart disorders and diabetes.
The ancient Arabic civilizations also placed a great importance to penile dimensions. Young Arab boys were given lessons in the penile exercise called Jelq, when they are finally coming of age. The Jelq involves massaging the semi-erect penis in a rhythmic and regular manner, enhancing blood pressure within the shaft. The effect of this technique appears in approximately a month, provided that it is done regularly and correctly.
Lastly, in the early 20th century, the penis enlargement pump was invented by an Austrian called Otto Ledever. This marks the beginning of modern equipment use in this area of cosmetic treatment. The penis pump basically creates a vacuum and causes the cells to swell with blood. With prolonged use, this technique was shown to have more lasting results.
These techniques are still present today in various forms. It is important to know the history of penile enlargement in order to have a better perspective of each technique's background and effectivity. With this in mind, men can ascertain for themselves, which technique will be best suited for their purpose.
Woman And Their Sex Toys
Well, watching a woman please another woman is up there too I guess. In today's world of fast food, debit cards, it isn't so surprising that a woman enjoys pleasing herself. This is a fast high tech world. Woman are working as many hours as men these days. They don't have the time to go out and search for the guy who will lay them once and ruin their lives. There are many reasons why a woman would want to masturbate. Just like there are many reasons why you masturbate. It doesn't take much thought to figure it out. Most men don't understand the female body.
The clitoris has to be stimulated for maximum pleasure. The clitoris is much like the head of a penis. Could you imagine having sex with only your shaft? That wouldn't make for very enjoyable sex.
A few hundred years ago it was common for a woman who had a strong need to go to a doctor and have him masturbate her. This was done because it was their belief that a horny woman could lead to bad things. It wasn't healthy to have sex more than once per week.
These doctors usually spent up to 50% of their time masturbating women. That had to be some job. Could you imagine getting paid to masturbate women? I would work overtime every chance I got.
This shows something bigger though. It shows that most men don't know how to please a woman. I'm not saying that sex once a week is enough, but I think you know what I am saying. If you lived back in this era and your woman had to go to the doctor to have an orgasm, you are doing something wrong.
Being that most men can't please a woman, a vibrator isn't a bad choice. Actually their doctor will tell them to use a vibrator. It is good because they can control the orgasm better with one. This comes in 'handy' if your partner can't please you.
Some women don't want the hassle of finding a mate. They use sex toys in the same way that men use escorts. They figure that it isn't worth their time to find a mate, so why bother? The sex toy is easier and quicker than what a man can do. They can make themselves have an orgasm in half the time a man can give them one.
Another aspect is that they don't want the risk of disease. This might be more prevalent than you might think. Regardless of how good the sex is, it isn't worth dying over. This is a valid reason why any man or woman would masturbate. No one wants to run to their grave. Most prefer to waltz.
Some women don't want the risk of having a baby. With all the asshole men who don't take care of their children, I don't blame them one bit for this one. In today's world, it is hard enough to make a living for yourself, let alone several mouths to feed. Masturbation helps take away any risk of this and she still gets to enjoy a great orgasm.
One woman told me that a vibrator is everything a man isn't. A vibrator is always ready to go. No need to wait for it to get an erection. It won't leave the house dirty and want you to clean up after it. It won't cheat on you. It won't expect after you are done to make it something to eat. While I had a good chuckle at what she had to say, it is the truth.
Here are three things that men fear about vibrators.
-Female masturbation is wrong. I don't understand how men feel this way, but they do. They jack off, but it is wrong for their women to do so.
-She will become addicted to it. Men fear the introduction of anything other than their penis when it comes to the bedroom. Don't fear the vibrator, love it. Enjoy watching her orgasm like there is no tomorrow.
-She will have no need for a real penis. This happens, but not as much as men fear. Nothing will replace the touch of another human being. Unless their vibrators can cuddle them after they are done, it won't replace you.
Understanding that women have sexual needs is important like understanding you have sexual needs. There is no need to run from it. A horny woman isn't a slut, but just a horny woman. If you have a woman who is horny all the time, don't get bent out of shape. Most men would love to have a woman like yours.
There is another aspect to this discussion. Sometimes we just want to relax and enjoy the pleasure of an orgasm alone. There is nothing wrong with this. Sometimes we just need time to relax and be alone. This is a great way to get the stresses of the day off of our shoulders and relax.
The clitoris has to be stimulated for maximum pleasure. The clitoris is much like the head of a penis. Could you imagine having sex with only your shaft? That wouldn't make for very enjoyable sex.
A few hundred years ago it was common for a woman who had a strong need to go to a doctor and have him masturbate her. This was done because it was their belief that a horny woman could lead to bad things. It wasn't healthy to have sex more than once per week.
These doctors usually spent up to 50% of their time masturbating women. That had to be some job. Could you imagine getting paid to masturbate women? I would work overtime every chance I got.
This shows something bigger though. It shows that most men don't know how to please a woman. I'm not saying that sex once a week is enough, but I think you know what I am saying. If you lived back in this era and your woman had to go to the doctor to have an orgasm, you are doing something wrong.
Being that most men can't please a woman, a vibrator isn't a bad choice. Actually their doctor will tell them to use a vibrator. It is good because they can control the orgasm better with one. This comes in 'handy' if your partner can't please you.
Some women don't want the hassle of finding a mate. They use sex toys in the same way that men use escorts. They figure that it isn't worth their time to find a mate, so why bother? The sex toy is easier and quicker than what a man can do. They can make themselves have an orgasm in half the time a man can give them one.
Another aspect is that they don't want the risk of disease. This might be more prevalent than you might think. Regardless of how good the sex is, it isn't worth dying over. This is a valid reason why any man or woman would masturbate. No one wants to run to their grave. Most prefer to waltz.
Some women don't want the risk of having a baby. With all the asshole men who don't take care of their children, I don't blame them one bit for this one. In today's world, it is hard enough to make a living for yourself, let alone several mouths to feed. Masturbation helps take away any risk of this and she still gets to enjoy a great orgasm.
One woman told me that a vibrator is everything a man isn't. A vibrator is always ready to go. No need to wait for it to get an erection. It won't leave the house dirty and want you to clean up after it. It won't cheat on you. It won't expect after you are done to make it something to eat. While I had a good chuckle at what she had to say, it is the truth.
Here are three things that men fear about vibrators.
-Female masturbation is wrong. I don't understand how men feel this way, but they do. They jack off, but it is wrong for their women to do so.
-She will become addicted to it. Men fear the introduction of anything other than their penis when it comes to the bedroom. Don't fear the vibrator, love it. Enjoy watching her orgasm like there is no tomorrow.
-She will have no need for a real penis. This happens, but not as much as men fear. Nothing will replace the touch of another human being. Unless their vibrators can cuddle them after they are done, it won't replace you.
Understanding that women have sexual needs is important like understanding you have sexual needs. There is no need to run from it. A horny woman isn't a slut, but just a horny woman. If you have a woman who is horny all the time, don't get bent out of shape. Most men would love to have a woman like yours.
There is another aspect to this discussion. Sometimes we just want to relax and enjoy the pleasure of an orgasm alone. There is nothing wrong with this. Sometimes we just need time to relax and be alone. This is a great way to get the stresses of the day off of our shoulders and relax.
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