Friday, March 28, 2008

Her Greatest Fantasies

It is said that most men think of sex more than anything else. I forget the stats, but it seems to me that the average man thinks of sex at least two times per minute. We all fantasize about sex. We think of some hot babe who has nice breasts who wants to get it on during lunch break. We can't look at a woman and not have a sexual thought about her. Well, except for the fat old women, but some men think about them too. It shouldn't be no surprise to use that women have fantasizes. I think that sometimes men get pushed away from women who are sexual, because we think of them as sluts.

We need to understand this isn't the case and we should enjoy the fact that they have fantasizes.

Women are different than men, you don't need me to tell you that. Men are more visual creatures. We get turned on by the sight of a pair of nice legs or a set of big but yet perky breasts.

Women on the other hand get aroused mentally. They need to be worked before they can get turned on. This is why women need foreplay and men could live without it.
This is why men go to strip clubs and women read romance novels. Women are in search of the mental arousal, while we are in search of a nice pair of hooters. This is why a woman loves to be talked to before she has sex. We all know this, but yet we try to avoid it.
To understand the arousal of a woman, you must understand what makes her aroused. If you don't, all you will be doing is running in circles. You will end up with an unhappy woman who fakes orgasms every time you have sex.

Here are some things that you can do to turn her on and get her fantasizes kick started.

1. Whisper sweet nothings in her ear. I learned this one off of the Brady Bunch. I was surprised that it actually worked. While you are having sex or during foreplay, whisper things in her ear. Tell her how horny she is making you or tell her how good it feels to have sex with her. This will drive her wild!

2. Spend a few extra minutes on foreplay. She will love this. Spend some extra time running your fingers through her hair or kissing her body. She will get so wet, that she will explode in no time!

3. Caress and kiss her entire body. This will make her go bizerk. Every woman loves it when a man does this.

4. Go down on her first. Most men want to get off first, but play musical chairs and have her sit on your face first. She will be shocked by it and think that you are paying special attention to her needs.

5. After a great love making experience, buy her flowers. Show her that you love her, this will earn you brownie points to get laid again sooner.
I'm sure you are wondering what these things have to do with fantasizes. It is pretty simple really. You need to make her feel comfortable so that she can trust that you won't laugh at her when she tells them. Not only this, but she needs to know that you take love making seriously.

If she knows that you are serious about love making and that you will do anything to please her, she will open like a flower. I know that it might sound bad to have her start to go goo goo over her fantasizes, but it really isn't. You may think that if you listen too much that she will only be open to hers and not yours.

The thing to keep in mind is that some of the fantasizes that you have, she will have too. Meaning, that in the long run, chances are you will get to live out some of yours as well. This is a great thing, because you both have the same secret idea that turns you on. When you live it out, it will be incredible. Both of you will be so horny that it takes all your energy not to explode right away.

The key to keeping a healthy and happy sex life is making sure that you are open. Nothing will be good if you can't talk about it. Your goal is to have the best sex possible. That is why you are in the relationship right? I mean, unless she cooks a mighty fine pork roast.

The problem in most relationships is that most people don't communicate with each other. They keep things locked inside them and don't realize that some day it will all blow up. It is like a steam engine that has no where for the steam to escape. That steam has to go some where. That some where will be the thing that causes your relationship to end.

You tell her what pisses you off and she tells you what pisses her off? Believe me, you know if you do something that makes her mad. She won't let you forget about it. Well, the same is true with sex. If you feel open enough to talk about what angers you, you should be able to talk abut what pleases you. If not, I'm afraid things don't look good for your relationship. by Peter James

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Erotic Massage

This one is a delightful kind of massage that always ends with a good, strong orgasm and a cool, relaxed mood, leaving you refreshed and relaxed. The purpose of this massage is to achieve and maintain a high state of sexual arousal for as long as possible before letting things follow their course and bringing the show to a successful conclusion. Men who suffer from premature ejaculation can really benefit from erotic massages because it can get them used to maintaining a certain level of arousal without ejaculating.

Others may choose to use this massage as foreplay or as a method for enhancing the mood and increasing the erotic awareness of both lovers. For this type of massage you may want to get some CDs that are less on the romantic side and more of the stimulating variety; I’m talking about something closer to Billie Myers than to the Best Chill-Out Compilation: Volume 4 or whatever. Make liberal use of scented massage oil and make sure it’s a really spicy brand, not something suited for relaxation.

As always, don’t rush in and start with the genitals. Take your time and give a good all around massage before focusing on the pelvic muscles. Massage these muscles into a welcome state of relaxation that will allow your lover to achieve arousal and yet stay relaxed for a long time. Whisper into her ear how much you want her and how sexy she looks. Complete the massage by moving to the most important parts of the body. Again, don’t rush; if you’ve been taking things slowly thus far, don’t spoil the mood now. Do a good job and remember that a prolonged and strong orgasm is better than a three-second rush to the head. Save the rush for spontaneous sex in the park.

Woman And Trust

I think this is one of the areas that the mind set is different for men and women. For a man, it depends on the length of a relationship. If they know it will be short term, trust and communication isn't really an issue. They know all they are in it for is the sex and they know that it will be over in a small amount of time.On the other hand, women see it differently. I think some of it is because they were taught as kids to be afraid of men. They are told to be on the look out for strangers or people who might harm them. Think about it... How many times do you hear of a woman raping a child? Not very often.

I do think this plays into the mind set of a woman. She will need someone she can trust and communicate with to have sex. Now, I don't mean that this is the case with a one night stand or someone that she has casual sex with. Instead, this is in regards to a relationship. You see, women view all relationships as a strong bond. Being that this is the case, even for a short term relationship she needs to have trust and communication to have sex.
Let's talk about trust for a little while. You might not like what I have to say, but that is your choice.

- Women have a reason why they shouldn't trust men. Actually, they have a lot of reasons. On one hand I feel that this is a sad thing, but on the other hand I understand it. I understand the sexual desires of a man and I understand why they think they way they do.

- We all are looking to get a woman in bed. We all want to get our freak on as much as we can. Women know this. This is a reason why she doesn't trust men. She knows that men will say anything and I mean anything to get in her pants. How many times have you lied trying to get into a girls pants? Probably more times than you can count.

- Again the issue with the girls that get raped while they are kids. This does put a lot of fear into a woman at an early age. Also, people rape adults. So they are constantly on the look out for the person who is going to rape them. It does happen, more so than what we may think. It is a sad state in this world when men have to rape a woman to have sex. Personally if I was in such a situation, I would rent a porn movie and jerk off.

- Women sometimes don't trust men because their fathers were abusive. This has more of an effect on women than we would like to think. A lot of people have had abusive childhoods. It is more common than we think.

- If you are out for a quick lay, I'm not sure that it is worth the effort to try to figure out why a potential date or even your current girlfriend has issues with trusting you. I mean, if you are only looking for sex and she isn't giving it to you, why stick around?

- If on the other hand you are looking for a long term relationship with this woman, then you should take the time out to know why she is the way she is. She might have been abused or raped sometime in her life. It is important to know this, but I wouldn't dig too deep.

- If you have to dig deep about what bothers her about men, chances are she doesn't want you or anyone else to know. It is possible that after she feels more comfortable with you, she will tell you. On the other hand, she might just think you are an asshole.

- People can be very timid in regards to telling others about their problems. They are afraid they may laugh at them or hold it against them. This does happen. You might not think about it, but some men won't even touch a woman who has been raped. They don't understand that it wasn't their fault, all they think about is the dirty act and how dirty they must be.

This is why it is important that you keep an open line of communication with your woman. She needs to know that she can talk about anything and everything to you. The next time she talks about her period, don't go ape shit and tell her that it is disgusting. Put up with it and ask questions if you need to. This is the key thing if you want her to trust you. by Peter James

Monday, March 24, 2008

Breasts (part 2)

Last time I talked in general terms about boobs and having fun with them. This time I want to get a bit more specific and give you some suggestions on how to work on your babe’s boobs and what will give her the best sensations and what won’t. Fortunately no two girls are the same so what works for me and many other chicks may not work on your babe; lets face it, there are some girls out there who don’t want their tits to be touched by anyone. Personally I love guys playing with my tits and whenever my partner and I are just cuddling I’m not happy unless he spends some time fondling my boobs, afterall my boobs are there for a reason, and that reason is HIM.

Obviously you all realise that tits come in all shapes and sizes from very small up to very large. I’ve had fun with a girl who really had no tits at all – just very large nipples. On the other hand my natural D’s while big are not the biggest natural tits out there. I am sure that you have all seen pics on various websites of babes with natural boobs up to sizes so big that they would kill you if they ever fell on you. It’s just as well that girls’ boobs come in all shapes and sizes because guys’ tastes differ too. Some guys love babes with very little up top, my friend with nothing but nipples has no shortage of guys who want to get her into bed. Other guys like flirting with potential injury and only want to play with the biggest tits they can find and in between there are guys who just like tits – no matter what size they come in. I suppose with all this variation and interest in girls’ boobs it was not long before scientists began looking at them too (the little perverts!?!).

Now there is an excuse if ever I heard one, why didn’t they just say they wanted to look at tits because they like looking at tits? I know a couple of scientists intimately and they’re just as randy as any other guy but they do like to be discreet so I guess hiding their interest behind a scientific study into tits is understandable. The studies have shown that while babes with big tits have the most fun it’s the babes with the perky little tits that have the most sensation. Evidently the longer you stretch nerve fibre the less amount of sensation that is passed along it so babes with little tits have shorter nerve fibres than babes with big tits. This means that when you lick or nibble a small tit you will produce more sensation for the owner of that tit and give them a bigger buzz than you will give a girl who has big or droopy tits.

When talking about boobs it’s impossible to overlook those wonderful little brown thingies that sit on the end of most boobs, the nipples. Big nipples have lots of nerve endings in them and when given the right sort of attention these nerve endings can send a girl into orgasm very easily – I know from personal experience. On the other hand big nipples can be over sensitive and produce so much sensation that it becomes painful for the girl. So tread warily until you know how much sensation your babe gets from her big nipples. Small nipples tend to be less sensitive and for many girls with small nipples the areola (the brown circular area around the nipple) is more sensitive and the area on the areola between 10 and 2 is the place to play. A small percentage of girls have inverted nipples but they get just as much sensation from sucking, licking and touching as other girls do.

So in case you’re wondering, here is what works for me. If you’re going to suck my boobs then you should definitely not suck so hard you are going to bruise me – no girl likes to be damaged like that, especially a hooker because bruising will cost her money. Instead don’t be too gentle either, just a nice firm suck and while you’re doing it run your tongue around my nipples and I’ll get so wet you will be able to feel my juices running all over your balls. If you want to nibble be gentle – hold my nipples in your teeth and gently pull and you will very quickly here how loudly I can moan. If you want to touch my breasts then cup them in your hands and squeeze gently or even run your fingers lightly around the areola and flick the nipples gently now and again. Treat me like that and you’ll get special treatment in return every time.

Now I suppose I should tell you what the experts say will please a woman. I’m not sure what qualifies these people as experts seeing that they are all men but I do want to give you a balanced view. The experts suggest that if your babe has big boobs then she gets the best sensation while lying on her back and you should concentrate on the outside of the breasts below the armpits and use your tongue and fingertips with a light flicking motion. A little nibbling may be good too. After reading that all I can say is that I’m glad I don’t have those experts playing with my boobs.

As I said before, that is not going to apply to everyone and it certainly doesn’t apply to me. If it’s a guy I like then nothing gets me hornier than sitting on his cock while he sucks, nibbles and plays. The sensation when I’m lying on my back is nice too but it isn’t anywhere near as good as what I get when I’m on top If your babe has small breasts the experts suggest that you should gently bounce your babes tits around in the cups of your hands remembering that small tits are much more sensitive than big ones. If you’re lady is breastfeeding an infant then you should be as gentle as you can because the baby has probably tried to suck her breasts off her chest. Be patient with her if she doesn’t want you to touch her breasts and if she does then you should concentrate on the underneath part of them.

Finally there are those babes who have filled up their chest with silicon for whatever reason. If done correctly implants will not affect the sensations that the girl will get when you play with her tits. These babes seem to get the most sensation when you start away from their nipples and gradually move your tongue or fingers in towards the nipples. So there you have a ton of information about tits and how to handle them. Perhaps you think you don’t need this sort of information, unfortunately it is my experience that the vast majority of guys who see me have no idea what to do when presented with a pair of eager boobs just begging to be handled correctly.

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Saturday, March 22, 2008

Breasts (part 1)

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Friday, March 21, 2008

Worried about size?

When it comes to sex, “Am I big enough?” has simply got to be the top question men have been asking themselves in the privacy of their own minds since forever. And most of them answer the question the wrong way, because men always tend to compare themselves with other people. This leads to doubts and questions about the size of their penises and performance adequacy. Many men go to ridiculous lengths to offset what they perceive as a shortcoming on their side. But is it really a problem?

This kind of behaviour is very common. Nearly every man asks himself the “Size Question” at some point or another in his life and since men are too afraid to ask the question directly, they never get a satisfactory answer. And so the matter drags on in their minds instead of being put to rest once and for all. It’s a shame that some men find nothing better to do with their time and efforts than to prove to themselves and to the world that they don’t have small penises. This fear of being too small may grow to become a serious problem for some men. It’s a blight upon their confidence and it may drive them to do silly things.

Women are looking for other things aside from a big penis. It’s not that having 7 or 8 inches doesn’t help at all. Women like to ogle men before getting into anything serious and a sizeable bulge in the pants scores points with them. Studies and polls have conclusively shown that women are far more interested in partners with good hygiene habits and who know how to bring them to orgasm, big penis or no big penis. Therefore penis size is nothing more than an item on the big check list for most women. Something akin to: “Penis size check – done. Now let’s move on to something even more important”.

The average penis size is 5.5 to 6 inches. And since most men are this size and still think themselves below average, it follows that men are not very good at judging their own size. If you start asking men about the size of their penises, you can be certain that most men would give themselves an extra inch or two, just to come across as really hung guys. However, a bigger organ may look impressive, but if it’s too big to fit comfortably inside the vagina or if the owner is clueless in bed, then all those inches are wasted. And the worst part of all this is the fact that most women care more about the quality and intensity of sex and less about the size of the man’s penis.

If you’re an average-sized guy and not content with your size, there are a few tricks that can help make your penis look bigger. The actual penis size can be hidden by the pubic hair. So, if you think you could profit from this, trim your pubic hair. A simple trick is to have a hot shower before sex. The hot water would help fill the penis with blood and make it hang heavier than normal. Or you could lose some weight. The pad of fat located at the base of the penis can grow in size along with the overall body fat and may obscure the base of the penis. Losing weight would decrease the pad and bring back the hidden inches.

Still, the easiest thing you could do is to have an honest talk with your partner and find out if your penis is adequate in size or if your partner actually cares about this. Still, be advised that, more often than not, an honest talk is likely to bring up other relationship-related issues than penis size. Penis size should be the least of your worries.

Erogenous zones on the female body

Since the body of a woman is one of the most delightful things in a man's life, it is only natural that men should want to be more curious about what spots must be touched to drive a woman wild with desire. The erogenous zones are areas of the female and male bodies that have heightened sensitivity. Stimulation of these areas usually results in sexual response, although not every individual responds in the same way to the stimulation of all erogenous zones.

Some of the erogenous zones of the female body, such as the nape of the neck and the inner thighs, are well known from the popular literature. Others, such as the feet and the buttocks, are seen as belonging rather to the fetish group by certain people. However, we shall review them all here.

The feet: The feet are a good place to start hen learning about the power of touch over a woman's sensitive areas. Many women like to have their toes tickled, licked and sucked on lightly. Yes, this does sound like a brave thing to do for many men, but many guys actually enjoy it. Moving up we find the back of the knees, which is an area featuring a high number of nerve endings. This means that the skin is very sensitive to touches and kisses. Further up still are the inner thighs, one of the most popular erogenous areas. Kiss them lightly, bite them lightly and caress to your (and hers) heart's content. Women will love it. At the top backside of the feet are the buttocks, another sensitive area and most women like to have it caressed. If you want to make her sizzling hot, you can also try kissing and licking and I'm sure most guys would not mind if it led to a little anal sex.

The nape of her neck and the ears. These two are a powerful combination and are usually the place to start the foreplay. Kissing, licking, caressing and massage work wonders on the most sensual part of her neck, while gently nibbling her ears will maker her hot and show you are a sophisticated lover at the same time.

The big three. And finally we come to the big three erogenous zones everybody knows about (which reminds me about that story of a German couple who did not have kids because they had no idea they were supposed to have sex, nor any idea what sex was). The big three are the lips, the breasts and the vagina/clitoris area. Kisses, caresses, licking, touching and fondling are not only highly recommended, but actually a must for any man who wants to experience the good things in life. And keep in mind that it pays to learn about both what makes your lady go over the edge with pleasure and the way to get her there.